Do you want to succeed like no other in 2020? Then you need to help others succeed! Patrick Veroneau discusses in this episode five keys to succeeding on a higher level. With these keys, you not only develop an environment where you can succeed. It’s an environment that benefits everyone. You can remember these five keys with the acronym EDGES. Tune in to find out what it stands for!
Listen to the podcast here:
The 5 Keys To Help You Succeed Like No Other in 2020
Helping Others To Succeed Is Important To Our Own Success And Is Part Of Leadership
I have been chomping at the bit to do this episode as we come into the new decade of 2020. To me, it’s so fitting. When I think of vision and where you want to go, we think of perfect vision as being 20/20. How we set ourselves up is very much the same thing. What are our visions? That’s what this episode is going to look at. It’s going to look at success, not only from the perspective of how do I succeed but on a deeper level, how can I succeed but also along the way, I’m helping other people to succeed because when we reached that level, that’s succeeding like no other. It falls directly in line with what this show speaks to, which is about leading like no other and we all have that ability. I’m not only obsessed with interviewing those whose actions are inspiring others to do great things, but also uncovering the research that demonstrates that we all have the ability to lead like no other. As I continue to go through this, leaders are learners and if we’re learning, we always recognize the ability to get better. Why don’t we get into it?
You probably could hear in the intro my excitement in terms of doing this episode. The reason for that is because I’ve spent so much time thinking about and experiencing 2020 with those clients that I’ve worked with in terms of looking at success. Although I truly believed it before, it’s become more evident to me the importance of helping other people get what they need and that when we do that, our ability to succeed ourselves is so much greater. There’s so much research around that now in terms of purpose, belonging and all of these things in terms of attainment. I think it’s so important that we speak to that. There’s a model that I put together called EDGES, which is about five keys to how we develop that environment where not only we succeed but we help other people to succeed as well.We have to believe that where we want to go is possible. Click To Tweet
EDGES is an acronym for each of these five behaviors, which is what the purpose of this show is about. The first one around EDGES is Expectation. Some would look at it in terms of a Law of Attraction. What do we think about? Obviously, for success, for us to get where we want to go, first, we have to believe we can get there. I know that sounds so obvious, but many people lack that ability to believe in where they’re going. From a coaching standpoint, I will often experience it in terms of limiting beliefs that somebody might say, “This is what I’m going to do.” Then all of a sudden they think, “I’m not smart enough. I don’t have the right education and experience. I’m too tall, too short. I’ve got too much hair, too little hair,” whatever it is. We are our own worst enemies in terms of holding back where we can go.
This is all around limiting beliefs that we put on ourselves. Maybe it was stories that we were told in terms of how we were brought up and that have played forward into where we are. I think the other part of expectation that often can hold us back is if we’re working toward going in a certain direction and we start to find some success that this imposter syndrome starts to creep in of doubting. Do we have the capability or the authority to be able to deliver on what we say we want to do? Certainly, that’s something that came into play many times for me, in terms of the work that I was doing in terms of saying, “Am I capable of doing this?”
It was only through continued success and feedback. I think not only seeing the results but hearing other people speak to that as well that I was able to overcome that. Expectation is important here in terms of that first key. I have to believe or you have to believe, we have to believe that where we want to go is possible. Oftentimes, especially when we hear the Law of Attraction, people will think, “You sit on the couch and think good thoughts while it happens.” We know that’s not the case. That’s where the next letter comes in here, which is around discipline. There’s a model that I put together, which is in the form of a Venn Diagram where I talk about the 3Ps of Goal Setting. The 3Ps are Planning, Practice and Perseverance.
In that first P, Planning, I talk about set goals. Set goals are very similar to SMART goals but in my own experience, they’ve obviously been refined. That’s what I did was I took SMART goals and tried to refine these and make them easier for people to be able to follow through on them. What set goals stand for is one, the goal is specific that there’s something either a number and activity attached to it but something that says, “Here’s what I want to do.” In the example of if it was money, maybe it was to say, “I want to make an additional $100,000 this year.” If it was to lose weight it was, “I’m going to lose 10 pounds this year,” whatever that is, but there’s specificity to it.
The next part is the emotion, and that’s the why behind this. As it relates to SMART, that’s the piece that I often found was missing and to me, the most important part of a goal, which is around the emotion. What’s the why behind this? If the why isn’t strong enough, the excuse will be in terms of why we don’t do it but when we come back to that why, it becomes so important. You can drill down on the why if you follow what is often called Root Cause Analysis, and that’s around the five whys and you can do the same thing for a goal. If I set a goal of, “I want to be healthier,” then I ask, “Why do I want that?” “Because I want to spend more time with my children.” “Why is that important?” “Because I know that they’re getting older and not being active and able to do the things that they’re doing limits my contact with them.”
“Why is that important to you?” “Because they’re getting into high school now and I know that I want to be able to coach my son or help my daughter out in terms of helping them practice outside of their practices. If I’m not healthy, I can’t do that.” “Why is that important to you?” “Because at some point they’re going to be out of the house. If I don’t build that relationship with them now, it will be much harder to get that later on because I know that 95% of the time that I’m going to spend with my kids sadly happens by the time they’re eighteen years of age.” Now, I’ve taken a goal of losing 10 pounds, and the real why is about legacy and interaction with my kids. There’s much more mortar there to hold those bricks together of what I’m trying to do.There is abundance out there for all of us. Click To Tweet
The last of the set goals is around time-bound, that there’s got to be a time to this. In the case of losing weight, if it was 10 pounds, then I want to do it by 1st of January or 1st of June. If it’s maybe not a timestamp but it’s a lifestyle change I’m going to make, then maybe I’m going to exercise 3 or 4 days a week, whatever that is but there’s a number to that. The next part of the Ps after Planning with our set goals is around Practice. We know all the research out there around work that was done by a researcher, Anders Ericsson, and certainly in a book that was popularized called Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. He talks about not only practice but deliberate practice.
Once we have set the goal, we need to put in the time to practice. What are the things that we need to do to make that happen? What are the skills that we need to develop? The last part of the Ps is around Perseverance, that is about our level of grit. Things are going to be difficult. They’re not always going to go our way. How do we maintain focus and drive on a goal when maybe we’ve experienced some failure and setbacks? We don’t do that one without having a strong why but also without the ability to leverage our perseverance, that sense of grit to be able to do that. When we move on from discipline in regards to the EDGES, living life on the EDGES as I often call it, is that we move on to gratitude. Gratitude is the dance between expectation of drive to where I want to go and accepting and be happy for where I am, and it’s a dance.
What I mean by that is that gratitude is about being happy for the place that I’m in. Gratitude on a deeper level to me involves also being grateful for my challenges, for those struggles, the things that I know are the shaping tools of where I’m going to go because, without that struggle, it’s going to be much harder for me to get where I want to go. I look at struggles like sandpaper and that they are roughing out or smoothing out the rough edges, and helping me to get where I want to go. When I take those challenges and look for ways to be grateful about those challenges, I take that power away from the challenge and I add it to the power of how I’m going to overcome that because, in a sense, I’ve harnessed that.
To me, that is the dance between expectation and gratitude. Expect that I’m going to get where I want to go but also, I’m grateful for where I am, and we can have both. We can go between both places. Those first three keys that I have talked about are very central to my own development and growth. I think the next two are much more about how I help other people and how I connect with other people. In the EDGES model, the next E in that model is about Empathy. This is about overcoming the biases that we have toward other people. Maybe looking at somebody else that isn’t where we are rather than judging that they’re not successful or they’re lazy or whatever but trying to understand what is it.
We all have different stories in terms of how we have got to where we are. When we can take a step back and be less judgmental about other people and more empathetic, wondering that maybe if I was in their shoes, I wouldn’t even be at the level that they’re at. If I know what they’ve had to overcome to get to where they are now, that plays powerfully into our ability to not simply be for ourselves but to be for others. We move on the last of the five keys in the EDGES, which is around sharing. This is to take whatever gifts we’ve been given, whether it’s financial abundance or intellectual abundance, whatever it is that we have when we can look to how we can create an environment, where we share this with other people through generosity. We know that creates a ripple effect.
Also, we know in terms of the research out there in terms of what makes people truly feel fulfilled and happy. It’s about purpose. Sharing is something that provides a fundamental and foundational approach on how we create purpose. It’s about sharing what we have with other people. When we are successful ourselves, we are out there trying to find ways that we can help others to succeed as well. We create an environment where we all benefit. Oftentimes from what I’ve experienced myself, and I’ve seen out there, when we come from a position of scarcity, we only think that there’s so much availability, then we’re not able to do this. We can’t share. We need to, “There’s only so much. I’ve got to make sure I’ve got my piece as well.” When in reality, there is abundance out there for all of us.
Not to make this a religious show, but the story of the fishes and the loaves, if you haven’t heard that before, to me it is representative of this. I don’t believe you have to be religious to understand the meaning behind that story. It’s to say that the fishes and the loaves speak to the ability where there was a huge crowd of people, and there was only a limited amount of food in terms of fish and bread. Yet, when everybody broke off a piece and handed it to the next person, the miracle was that everybody had enough to eat. I look at that to say that when we realized that there is abundance for all of us, when we give what we have, there is enough for everybody. When we hoard it, that’s when the scarcity comes in but when we share it openly, everybody gets a piece of this. I do believe that’s a responsibility, especially those when we reach levels of success. We have a responsibility to share that with others.
That is the key of living life on the EDGES. That is where life is lived at its best. That’s when we succeed like no other. When we live life at the EDGES, expect to get where we want to go, have the discipline to follow through in terms of how we set goals to get there, we’re grateful for where we are and where we’re going, we’re empathetic to those around us and look for ways that we can share the gifts, talents, abilities and abundance that have been presented to us. When we do that, we have truly set ourselves up for life, success, leading all of those things to me like no other.